Where to Find a Good Man

How often do we hear women say that there are no good men left, or that the ones left are all players, dogs or jerks that don’t know how to treat a woman? I know I hear it so often that if I had a dime for each time I heard it, I would be Oprah rich! The fact is that there are more than a few good men out there; you just need to know where to find them.

Before embarking on your mission to find Mr. Right, you should first get yourself together and ready to receive love. Second, you should have a list of what you’re looking for. Third, you must maintain an open mind because the very thing you say you would never do you may need to do in order to attract what you desire!

If you’ve read my books, you know that I include an activity for constructing a “Perfect Partner” list. There will never be a perfect person, but there is a perfect partner for you who is waiting on you, as you are waiting for him. Having a list peppered with flexibility will help you recognize him when he shows up. Don’t be obsessive about what’s on your list, because you really do need to keep an open mind to avoid missing out on someone who could be perfect for you, even if he isn’t the 6’5” model you put on your list. I don’t recommend that you settle for a man you’re not attracted to just for the sake of having someone, but you can find love in the most unlikely places — even in a man who isn’t as tall or as fine as you noted on your list!

Now, where does a fabulous single woman go to meet men? Everywhere! Armed with that open mind, you could stumble across Mr. Perfect-For-You just about anywhere. Putting yourself out there takes more than just walking with your eyes wide open. There are methods that you can employ to increase your exposure to great catches that just might be worthy of you. One of the best methods is to talk to your family and friends, your untapped resources! Make sure that you select friends and family who have great discernment and who really do want the best for you! Let them know that you’re open to attracting a good man. They’re likely to find one, because as friends and family, they don’t want to see you with anything less than a good person.

Next, think about men and where they like to go in groups. Rule out the local strip joint or nightclub, of course. Sports bars and the gym are great choices. In addition, there are resources such as online dating sites or singles functions like speed dating. Okay, stop rolling your eyes and hear me out! I know what it’s like to be a single woman dating, as well as a single mom dating after a divorce. It can be tough to really get yourself back out there in the dating game. Many working class individuals complain that they never have time to go out and meet anyone, so online dating helps to eliminate these barriers. Creating an online profile and selecting only quality online dating sites that include a compatibility test can be a really good start. As for speed dating, don’t knock it until you’ve tried it! Remember, you need to keep an open mind and at the very least the experience could be fun. Not to mention that since you’re only spending a few minutes at a time with each guy, you won’t have to tolerate the ones you don’t like for long. It’s also great dating practice!

I also find that doing activities like salsa dancing or taking golf or rock climbing lessons are more great places for meeting men with similar interests.

The point is that you will never meet anyone if you sit on your couch and don’t go anywhere, hoping for a man to drop on your lap— just like you would never get a job that way. If that sounds like you, get out there. Put your D.I.V.A. shoes on and you’ll find that there may be a surprise waiting for you at the other end of the rainbow!