The Three Most Powerful Words…

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In the age of Super Women (or rather Wonder Women since the reboot), there is an increased emphasis on being able to do it “all”.

I remember those commercials back in the day for Enjoli perfume—

I can bring home the bacon.
Fry it up in a pan.
And never let you forget you’re a man!
Cause I’m a wo-man!
Enjoli!
Enjoli—the 8 hour perfume for your 24 hour woman

In this day and age, women are expected to do it all and be it all–wife, mother, “boss”, best friend, career professional, caregiver, support system—you name it; we’re supposed to be able to do it. We have been conditioned to believe admitting and acknowledging when we need help is a sign of weakness.

That is NOT true.

Stop for a minute and really think about it. What is so strong about pushing yourself to the point of brokenness? What is so admirable about hiding your pain to the point where it consumes and ultimately devours you? What does being “everything” to everyone really get you? How stressed are you? How overwhelmed do you feel? Yeah, to the outside world you may be rawking all kinds of Wonder Woman magic, but at the end of the day, where does that leave YOU?

That’s where the three most powerful words come in. Ready?

The three most powerful words that you can use are:

I – NEED – HELP.

Yup. That’s it. Simple, isn’t it?

I know you’re wondering how in the world saying “I need help.” is going to help boost your “woman cred”, but hear me out.

Being able to say “ I need help” is actually an act of strength and power—not weakness.

There is strength in vulnerability. That moment when you admit to yourself that you have gone beyond what you can handle on your own is the most awesome sense of self-awareness, power and control that you can imagine. It means that you recognize and understand who you are–your strengths, weaknesses, abilities and limitations. It means that YOU get to determine when you “tap out” and when you want to bring others along to take that ride. It means that you are able to have the confidence and self-assuredness to say that even though you don’t know it all and you can’t do it all, you are open to accepting assistance and learning from others.

Admitting that you need help puts you in the driver’s seat. It tells the world that you are not going to conform to their demands, but shows them that you are taking the bull by the horns by admitting when you need to slow down, stop and bring others on board.

You ARE woman. You ARE amazing. You ARE human.

And that means that you DON’T HAVE to do it all by yourself.

There is strength in vulnerability. There is strength in knowing when to say enough is enough.

Know yourself– love yourself–enough to trust the process.

Keisha A Rivers is a strategist specializing in assisting clients to achieve personal and professional success by enhancing their knowledge of self, knowledge of strategies and knowledge of systems. Her Released & Ready Series enables clients to reflect on their patterns, redirect their path, refine their thinking, rejuvenate their spirit and release themselves to act.

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