Looking for Love this Season

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It’s easy for someone to love you, when you first love yourself. This sounds easy, but believe me, learning to love yourself can be very difficult. We all want someone to love, but oftentimes we don’t extend love to ourselves. Many people end up in dead end relationships due to low standards stemming from low self-esteem. However, when you choose to love yourself, those standards naturally become higher because you see yourself worthy of the love of someone special.

Love your imperfections

Learning to love you means loving the things about yourself that you consider to be a flaw and cannot change. You may be struggling with negative history from past relationships, your family background, or even becoming a single parent. But it’s these things that make you who you are. Once you’re able to embrace your negative views of yourself or circumstances, you can begin to love all the things that have occurred in your life. Once you do this, others will learn to love you—including your imperfections—as well.

Let love look for you

Many unhealthy relationships develop because the woman was looking for love instead of allowing it to find her. Instead of looking for love, spend more time preparing yourself for that special someone. Once you love yourself and are at peace with who you are, love will find you.

Here are some simple steps that will help you learn to love “YOU”:

• Accept what you cannot change.
• Forgive your past mistakes.
• Realize that there is only one you and you are unique; do not compare yourself to anyone else.
• Embrace your past as a learning experience, not as a failure.
• Fall in love with your scars, internally and externally. Your scars make you who you are today. They hold a story and once you’re comfortable revealing them, you’ll realize their strength.
• If you have children, love the accomplishment of becoming a parent. Your children are your legacy. If someone really loves you, they will also love your children, not just tolerate them.
• Treat yourself well. Take pride in who you are and where you have come from.
• Respect yourself and others will do the same.

The good news is loving yourself is the key to attracting a good man. Some of you may think that this is old-fashioned. However, if you’re honest with yourself for a moment you will see that it all starts with you. When you invest time and energy into yourself, there is a certain level of self esteem that forms. The confidence that you send off is noticeable to everyone around you.

The most important step: Love God first

The best way to love you is to simply love God first. When you give and receive God’s love, it spills over to others in your life; not only will you learn how to love yourself but how to also love others. “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind; and, Love your neighbor as yourself.” Luke 10:27

Marita L Kinney is woman of many talents. A Published Author, Certified Life Coach and Motivational Speaker, Marita has inspired thousands of people to overcome adversity with triumph through faith and perseverance. While facing several life changing challenges herself, Marita had enough faith to conquer tribulations, coming out victorious. She continues to encourage people through her books and coaching. www.MaritaKinney.com

1 Comment

  1. Sharon McCarty

    June 24, 2011 at 3:56 pm

    Thank you so much I really needed to hear those words….

    Be blessed in Jesus name;-)

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